Archive for July, 2010

I am what I eat.

Posted in Uncategorized on July 25, 2010 by Stunning Love

We have all heard the saying that “we are what we eat”,  I am smiling as I admit that for far to long I have been FAT.  I have really been enjoying those comfort foods that we all know so well.  Mac N cheese, chips, deserts etc. 

 I am in a place in my life where I am getting back to that happy little girl that I was before I became aware of the world.  You know that place where nothing else seems to exist except joy, and then life starts unraveling.  You begin to see cruelty and even experience it and for some like myself, you don’t really have the tools to deal so you can begin to find ways to heal from the pain that you feel.  For me that healing came in the form of those comfort foods that I mention above.

Thankfully I am back to that place where my life is more joyous.  I have the tools to deal with the  eb and flow of life and the power to remove myself from situations that do not serve me well.  I know how to comfort myself without the comfort foods.   Therefore it is time to break away from the bad habits and create new ones, as I have heard so many great speakers say.  I am now ready to do just that, I am ready to create a me that is healthier. I am ready to eat foods that represent the way that I feel which is light and exuberant.  Those comfort foods certainly do not make me feel  light.  On the contrary, usually what I feel after eating a bowl of apple pie is sluggish. I am ready to have the energy to create some great things in my life.  That does not mean that I am going on a diet and never eating chips again.  However what is does mean is that I am changing my life style.  The foods that I am choosing to comfort me are life affirming foods like those fruits and veggies that we all know we should eat as well as other foods that will help to facilitate a healthier happier me.


Are You Broken?

Posted in Uncategorized on July 25, 2010 by Stunning Love

Are you broken?

For many years I was going through life in a fog, I was here but not really.  I was kind of just letting life happen but not really creating life.  In recent years I decided that enough was enough and I wanted more, so I went on a journey of self discovery and what I learned was that I was broken.  I had experienced hurt and disappointment as a child that left me feeling insecure and vulnerable, broken.

Many people experience challenges that could leave them feeling small but they are able to overcome them because they have or at some point gain the tools to deal with their challenges.  

My challenge at a very young age was that I longed for the love of my father who was not there.  My father had another family and through my eyes it looked as if he chose them over me.  That experience said to me that I was not worthwhile to the very person who helped give me life.  I know that my story is not new but at the time I felt alone and crushed.  I am now a 38 year old woman who feels empowered and very much worthwhile but it was not until a few years ago that I could say that.  I realized that I had gone through my life desperate to make people like me, but I did not really like myself. 

I was not making smart choices about the people that I let in my life; they were not horrible people, most of them.  However they were often people who were similar to me in that they were not happy with who they were and that showed up in the way they treated me. 

What I have come to understand is that whole people are more often than not happy people and happy people are usually kind. So I had to forgive the people that hurt me.   I could forgive them because I realize they hurt me because they were hurt.  I had to stop holding on to the things that they said or did that broke me before I could begin to repair myself.   

I am so happy to have learned that I did not have to stay broken, that I could be whole.  Though healing ones self is not easy and it does not happen overnight it can happen, if we are willing to do the work;  the work of loving ourselves as well as accepting nothing less from others.  Because I love myself I now surround myself with friends who love themselves and as a result treat me well.

When I come across a person who is hurtful these days I don’t take it personal, and I also don’t stay around them for longer than is necessary.   

I realize that my mission is to live to continue to restore myself to the joyous little girl, once filled with love, wonder and amazement at life’s possibilities.

Who are your friends?

Posted in Uncategorized on July 25, 2010 by Stunning Love

Who are your friends?

Did your parents ever say to you” be careful who you become friends with, because you are your friends”.  As a kid I kind of understood what that meant.  If your friends are the type to get into trouble then they will probably influence you to do the same.

 I remember walking home one day from grade school when my friends and I decided to stop at our local store to buy some candy.  I was choosing the candy that I was going to buy when I noticed a couple of my friends stuffing their pockets.  I recalled my mom saying to me that trouble was easy to get into and very hard to get out of so I immediately put my candy down and bolted out of the store.  I was worried that if they got caught, I would get in trouble with them.  I still associated with them at school; they were good people who were making bad choices.  However I had no intention of being a thief so I figured that it were best that I did not go shopping with them.    

As I am navigating through life I am noticing just how wise my mother was.   It is certainly a challenge to be successful when you are around others who don’t have the same desire because they can become a distraction.  It is so important to know who you want to be and then find like minded friends who can help to motive and inspire you through their actions.  If your desire is to be a person who has integrity then it is important to surround yourself with friends who are trustworthy. 

Also if you want to have friends who are positive influences then you yourself need to be a positive influence and it is never too late to start.